Sometimes the Best Thing You Can Do for Someone is NOT to Help Them.

Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is NOT to help them.

Before you read this, I am aware we live in a time where a lot of people are struggling and really do need help. Please don’t confuse what I’m saying with the understanding that there are a lot of people who do need help at this time.

However, as an empowerment coach and guide, I’ve noticed that there are times when the most empowering thing you can do for someone is not to immediately help them but to create an opportunity for growth.

For example, say you have a certain skill or trade that another person really values but they don’t have a means financially or otherwise to obtain it in the moment.

As a generous and loving person, you may feel inclined to give it away.

But what if instead of giving your service away or discounting it etc., you create an empowering pathway for them to obtain it? Where they might have to network, use their resources etc. to find out they can have what they want and how truly capable they are?

I’ve seen people fight for what they want and obtain it. I’ve also seen situations where people need a leg up.

While no two situations are the same, I’ve noticed when using the lens of what is most empowering for the person, discernment becomes so much easier.

Would love to hear your thoughts as well as examples from your own life. May we always truly empower one another.